You Get Offended Easily

People often spend a significant part of their lives feeling offended by what someone did to them. But nobody has truly offended you! It’s your own expectations of how you thought those people should behave that cause you pain.

These expectations are created by your own thoughts. They are not real; they are imaginary. If you expected your parents to give you more love and they didn’t, you don’t need to feel offended. It’s your expectation of what an ideal parent should do for you that hurts you.

If you expected your partner to react in a certain way and they didn’t… your partner hasn’t done anything wrong. It’s the gap between the attention you expected and the attention you actually received that causes you pain. Again, this is all in your imagination.

One of the biggest sources of offense is trying to impose your point of view on others and guide their lives. When you tell someone what they should do and they say “no,” it creates double resentment.

First, you feel offended because they didn’t do what you wanted.

Second, the other person feels offended because you didn’t accept them as they are. And it becomes a vicious cycle. Everyone has the divine right to live their life as they see fit. They will learn from their mistakes themselves. Let them be! Nobody belongs to you, and your partner is not…